作者 Kim Bell 编译：AMI中国隶属协会
Why your kids should be doing chores,
whatever their age
Did you know that acccording to a new study having your toddlers help with chores paves the way for them to become more successful adults?
Helping around the home or being allocated chores helps develop the social nature of your child. While it’s always nice having your toddler help set the table, empty the dishwasher, pack away their toys, and keep their room tidy, teaching your child to be responsible isn’t just keeping him occupied or assisting you.
A positive behaviour
Julie Lythcott Haims, former dean of freshmen at Stanford University and author of How to Raise an Adult recently shared this science in her Ted Talk on how parents can raise successful children (without over-parenting), saying: “Professional success in life…comes from having done chores as a kid.” She adds that the earlier you start encouraging this behaviour, the better.
前斯坦福大学新生院主任、《 How to Raise an Adult》（如何抚养一位成人）一书的作者Julie Lythcott Haims最近在她的Ted演讲中分享了这一科学知识，她讲述了父母如何抚养成功的孩子（而不是过度养育），她说：“生活中的职业成功……来自于小时候做家务的经历。” 她补充说，越早开始鼓励孩子去做，就越好。
“If kids aren’t doing the dishes, it means someone else is doing that for them. And so, they’re absolved of not only the work but of learning that work has to be done and that each one of us must contribute for the betterment of the whole.” She bases this on the Harvard Grant Study that’s been almost 80 years in the making and looks at how early life experiences have impacted health and ageing over time.
The study, which started in 1938, has expanded to include the original participants’ offspring (who are now in their 50s and 60s). This, and other research, reveal that those who are involved with chores from an early age go on to become employees who collaborate well and are empathetic to others. Plus, these children are more likely to work on tasks independently, as well as within a team framework.
This follows on from a 2018 study published in Science News that found toddlers may be more geared towards helping and doing “real” activities than imaginative or fantasy play. This stems from children in farming or hunter-gatherer communities who play with real tools or smaller replicas of the tools, are participating in what amounts to being adult work. “Kids like to do real things because they want a role in the real world,” suggests psychologist Angeline Lillard of the University of Virginia in Charlottesville.
这是根据《科学新闻》（Science News）2018年发表的一项研究得出的结论，该研究发现，幼儿可能更倾向于帮助和做“真实”的活动，而不是做幻想类游戏。这起源于农耕或狩猎采集时期，儿童玩真正的工具或其较小的复制品，并参加准成年人的工作。“孩子们喜欢做真实的事情，因为他们想在现实世界中扮演角色” ，弗吉尼亚大学的心理学教授Angeline Lillard建议道。
Real activities compared to imaginary play
While imaginary play does play a role in development, a Developmental Science survey of 100 three- to six-year-olds in the US found only 35% liked to pretend play, while 65% gravitated to real activities.
Of these, 69% like baking, 74% enjoyed helping to take care of a baby, 60% liked to be involved in dinner preparation and 46% enjoyed washing dishes. Another study, this one out of Pennsylvania State University and Duke University (which followed a group of children from preschool through to 25). Helping around the home or being allocated chores helps develop the social nature of your child.
“This study shows that helping children develop social and emotional skills is one of the most important things we can do to help them prepare for a healthy future,” commented Kirsten Schubert, programme director at the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, which funded the study.
资助这项研究的罗伯特·伍德·约翰逊基金会（Robert Wood Johnson Foundation）的项目主任Kirsten Schubert评论说：“这项研究表明，帮助儿童发展社交和情感技能是我们能做的最重要的事情之一，可以帮助他们为健康的未来做好准备。”